Not all relationships are bad.
Not all bad relationships are entirely bad.
That being said, I've been in my share of good and bad relationships. I've been in relationships where there was nothing fundamentally wrong, we just didn't click. I've been in relationships where we were both really selfish and stubborn. I've also been in abusive relationships. One can read all of that and ask, "Was it all bad?" No, it wasn't. "So, what were some of the good aspects of past relationships?"
These are my thoughts (some are about the same person - I haven't had relationships with that many people):
- One made the best late-night sandwiches :)
- One taught me how to play Mortal Kombat(get over here!)
- Two shared my passion for music
- One would get restless and like to drive around the city and talk for hours (this was obviously before the gas prices went through the roof)
- One would rub my back when I couldn't sleep
- One helped me through the death of my grandmother
- One helped me through a situation that could have taken my life
- One wasn't intimidated by my father
- One helped me to become more outgoing
- One made me realize that I like to host parties
- One helped me realize who my real friends are
- One taught me how to make Apple Martini's
- One helped me realize that I'm not always right
- One helped me realize that I'm funny
- One gave me the most precious gifts that I never knew I wanted
- One made me feel like a Queen on my 21st birthday
Looking back on some of the relationships, there are some that once they were over, I was relieved. There were others that I was regretful. There were some that it took time to get over them. Every relationship - good or bad - can teach you things; things to help for the next relationship.
What have I learned from the past to help with the future?
1. Don't ever be afraid to say NO
2. Stand up for what you believe in
3. Do not expect people to be mind-readers; say what you want
4. An argument is not the end of the world; resolve it and move on
5. Don't give in all the time
6. Spice things up from time to time - monotony is boring
7. Don't spend every waking minute with them - have your own life
8. Don't get your feelings hurt if he doesn't like the sweater you just bought
9. You don't have to love what he loves - but support him on it
10. Don't change what you like because he doesn't like it
11. Don't always expect him to drive
12. Just because he's not talking doesn't mean he's mad
Life is a lesson - pay attention, take notes; you never know when there's a test!
3 comments:
I am glad that you have spent some time reflecting introspectively. A wise person once said,"Insanity is when you continuously do the same thing expecting a different result".
I just wanted to say thank you for the lessons you have taught me...I've learned more from you in the last six months that I learned in a long time, some lessons difficult to stomach, others very subtle...I hope that you find in the next relationship what I missed!
I think some relationships are great, some are horrible, some probably shouldn't have been, and some just are blurbs in your mind... it is good to focus on the good ones and learn from the blurbs (if you care to even remember them)
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